Why is life so unpredictable at times that u lose the ones u love?

"Life" and "unpredictable" go together. If life were predictable, would it really be life? If we knew what was going to happen every day, in every moment, would we really be living? It is the unpredictability of life that makes us alive. Without unpredictability, we would be like puppets, following some predictable path.

Unpredictability & Growth

Without unpredictability, there would be no new understanding, no growth. When we try to make life predicable we cut off some of the most interesting and important experiences of our life. We cut off the possibility of real growth. Human beings try new things, seek new experiences, precisely because they are unpredictable.

Change is a law of life. Growth is a law of life. Without change we do not grow. Without the unpredictable our growth is stunted. Our greatest thinkers, scientists, inventors, and spiritual leaders embrace the unpredictable. They know the rewards to be had by venturing into unknown territory. There is no discovery without exploration. We cannot expand what is new without being open to the unknown.

For a child growing up, everything is unpredictable. Everything is unknown. That is the path of growth for all of us.

The Good, the Bad, & the Ugly

This is not to say that the unpredictable experiences in our lives are always beneficial. In every life there are unexpected disappointments and even crises; sometimes tragedies. These events are extremely negative and can shatter a life. But if we are wise, we will learn from our negative experiences as well as the positive.

If we learn from our negative experiences, even though we are still subject to the unpredictable, we can be better prepared for such future experiences. Our negative experiences can change us for the better as much as our positive experiences. Even serious illnesses, among the most negative and usually unpredictable experiences, can have a positive life-changing impact on the victim. When our life is threatened, we tend to examine our values, look at what is really important to us and what is not.

Being excessively careful not to be surprised by events simply doesn't work and it makes our life less free and enjoyable. Life is richer when we consciously open ourselves to whatever life will bring us. If we accept that life brings all colors and flavors of experience, we can be more prepared just by being open. We can accept the negative more readily when we see it as a learning opportunity, not simply a disaster to be avoided.

The attempt to control one's life too rigidly is simply a setup for the unpredictable to be be more devastating than need be. An attitude of openness and a willingness to follow impulses and hunches can be exciting and rewarding. Unpredictability is your friend!